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"Daddy, Daddy, look at me!"

I first heard the title of this blog entry when I was watching a commercial on television. In this commercial was a little girl who was dancing while her Dad was videotaping her. While she was dancing she kept saying, "Daddy, Daddy, look at me!" This commercial was just a commercial until I noticed my daughter, 3 years old, and son, 2 years old, beginning to say the same thing, "Daddy, Daddy, look at me!" It was in that moment where just those 5 little words spoke to me so deeply and profoundly. You see, our children desperately want and absolutely need our attention as they grow up. Now I know as Dads we are so busy trying to make it happen for our families by going out into the world each and everyday pounding the pavement. I am no different from the rest of us but one thing that I have found to be certain; YOU CAN'T BUY BACK TIME! You really can't. Once it's gone, it's gone. So you must make a concerted effort to make sure that during ea

Fitness and Family

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, over the past three decades the childhood obesity rate has more than doubled for preschool children aged 2-5 years and adolescents aged 12-19 years, and it has more than tripled for children aged 6-11 years. ("Prevalance of Overweight and Obesity Among Children and Adolescents, 1999-2002"; Oct. 6, 2004) Overweight adolescents have a 70 percent chance of becoming overweight or obese adults. This increases to 80 percent if one or more parents are overweight or obese. (United States Department of Health and Human Services) Now my intentions are not to bore you with statistics but it is important to have them in order to lay the foundation. It is no surprise that obesity and being overweight has become more and more prevalent across the board over the past few decades, in particular the past decade. As a result, there are many people, particularly those in the health care field, that have been looking for the root ca

Happiness IS A Decision

Do you realize that everyday when you wake up in the morning, you have the power to decide whether or not you're going to be happy on that paticular day? Amazingly, many people fail to realize this. I must say that I was one of these people. Fortunately, my eyes were opened and I began to realize that I was falling into the trap of misconceptions about what happiness truly is. In order to understand this, let me first define the word happiness. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, happiness is defined as 'being in a state of well-being and contentment.' Therefore, happiness is decided by internal factors, not external. So many people blame there unhappiness on external factors instead of looking within. How amy times have you come in contact with someone who has blamed their unhappiness on their job or on their financial situation? Look at relationships for example. How many relationships do you know of that ended because one person was looking for the othe

Wisdom Reigns Supreme

When you hear the word wisdom, what is the first thing that comes to mind? I know for me certain people that are wise come to mind such as my grandfather and my father. But what is wisdom and what does it mean? The Merriam Webster dictionary uses words such as, 'knowledge, insight, good sense, good judgement, and learning'to describe wisdom. The bible describes wisdom in several ways, the most important being that "the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom." The bible goes on to encourage the embracing of wisdom while at the same time gaining knowledge and understanding. In this world today, many people lack wisdom both everyday people and people in positions of power. On a daily basis there are many people who just make bad decisions whether it has to do with their marriage, finances, career, family, or health. Furthermore, those who are in positions of power such as CEOs of large corporations and politicians, make decisions on our behalf that are fooli

Push Past Pain

If you ask anyone who has lived any length of time in this world whether or not they've experienced pain, I'm 99.9 percent sure they'll answer a resounding 'YES!' If they happen to say 'No' then my response is to just keep on living because it won't be long. The bottom line is that at some point in one's life, you're going to experience pain. Whether you lose a loved one or it's something of a physical, relational, or financial nature, you are bound to experience some sort of pain in your life. This is why it is so very important to be able to 'Push Past Pain' in order to move on in your life. When you dwell on the pain, it can overtake you to the point where multiple areas of yor life are negatively impacted as well. Meanwhile, life continues to pass you by. I understand that it's easier said than done but having gone through some extremely trying times myself, I also understand that those of us that are able to 'Push P

Decisions in Life

Do you realize that life is made up of a series of decisions? Everyday we are all faced with the challenge to make good decisions. It is our hope that we make the best decision and the right decision that will put us on the path towards a fulfilling and successful life. But what if this doesn't happen and you wind up making a bad decision that puts you on the path towards difficulty and disappointment? What do you do then? Where do you go from there? Well it's been said that "life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it." Sounds good right? But what does this really mean? If you have ever made a bad decision in your life, and I'm sure you have, then how you recover from it is directly linked to how you react to it. It doesn't matter if it was a decision that affected you financially, relationally, physically or what have you. The most important point in all of this is to get back in the game and make things work out the be

Family IS the Foundation

When I was a kid, I was fortunate enough to grow up in a loving home with my father and mother who have been married for 39 years now, 2 older brother, and a sister. This was what I considered to be normal. I figured that everyone was raised in a loving home with both parents and siblings. As I grew up, I recognized that this was becoming the exception and no longer the rule. Why is this? Simple answer to a complicated question; our society is out of control and over time has dismantled the Foundation of the Family. Just to name a few; teenage pregnancy is at an all time high, the terms "baby mama" and "baby daddy" are used to define relationships, father's are not owning up to their responsibility of fatherhood, violence has been on the rise, and there is a lack of respect for authority that has become more and more prevalent. The bottom line is this; a child's first experience with the world starts in the home and they will learn and develop the skills nee